Rationalization of Goodbye!

When people say goodbye…they try to rationalize what happens.they find comfort by explaining the things that didn’t work…they find comfort in telling people that its how life is, accept it…they find comfort in telling others that God has a reason why he/she left…they find comfort in telling themselves that Love is about letting go.

Damn rationalization and justification of such events. Saying goodbye is painful…needless to say, we try to create meanings to ease our pain and bring comfort to our troubled self. Whether you create meanings of it or alter the meaning of love…or just be passive and accept it. I am right when I say that people do that most of the times…all the justifications and rationalizations. I have been advised by a friend lately…about being sincere (thanks Teepee) sincere to how you feel…sincere to your words…sincere to your self. Being sincere is to not let go of the moment of pain…being sincere is to feel the feeling of pain rather than escape from it…being sincere is to tell yourself that you are hurt and I will feel this hurt because it reminds me of loving sincerely…being sincere is not to feel hurt just becuase of not being loved back…being sincere is just to love and nothing else matters not even expecting to be loved in return…love unselfishly…just love with sincerest and to the fullest.

Hurt me, break me, reject me, do wrong deeds to me…it don’t matter…it wont change how a person feels…if he/she loves you fully. Try not to attach meaning to the word love…or better not to create or label love to what you feel…attaching meanings create expectations to another and expectations to yourself….attaching meanings create limitations and boundaries to love…is someone don’t fit to your meaning of love then you conclude that he/she don’t love you…this is a misleading concept. When it happens that it will come to a point in your life that “love” doesn’t have any real meaning at all because everybody has different interpretation of it…love is just a word, a concept having constructed meanings….you must return to the most basic of all emotions to understand fully such beautiful experience of loving someone…it is the joy of feeling…no words no concepts…just a deep feeling…to feel that wonderful experience and to be able to let others feel such wonderful undescrible emotions…it is most real…then you have, let say “loved fully”, or experienceing the most sincerest part of loving.

Don’t rationalize goodbye…don’t rationalize love…the more you do the more it becomes an illusion of created meanings….just feel and don’t think.

Because feeling is a great gift to cherish too.